I just finished reading A Dirty Job by Christopher Moore, which may be my favorite book that I’ve read by him thus far (and I have read many Christopher Moore books). The main character, Charlie Asher, was described as a Beta Male steadily throughout the book, from the first paragraph to the last.
Moore describes Charlie Asher as “a pretty normal guy. A little hapless, somewhat neurotic, sort of a hypochondriac. He’s what’s known as a Beta Male: the kind of fellow who makes his way through life by being careful and constant — you know, the one who’s always there to pick up the pieces when the girl gets dumped by the bigger/taller/stronger Alpha Male.”
Moore goes into more detail in his Beta Male Manifesto. There is also a quiz at the end of A Dirty Job entitled “The Official ‘Are You A Beta Male?’ Quiz”:
You’re wondering if perhaps you didn’t identify just a little but too closely with Charlie Asher. You’re wondering if perhaps your very own [insert your personal weird neurotic tendency here] makes you less a quirky, original Alpha Male and more likely a . . . Beta Male. Well, don’t worry! Step right up! In just a few short moments, you can answer the question: Am I A Beta Male? (PS: Ladies, if you want to find out if your fella is a Beta Male, just insert “Is he” where you read “Am I.” You may want to keep the results to yourself.)
Now, assuming you (the reader) have read Moore’s entire Beta Male Manifesto, I would like to pose the following question: is there such thing as a Beta Female?
As far as I’m concerned, the answer is Yes. Finding anything on Beta Females, however, is not easy. Mostly the links my search turned up were mere references in Alpha Female articles. The Beta Female is so good at being invisible that she doesn’t even show up in a Google search! Oddly enough in searching for Beta Males, I didn’t find much either. I did stumble across an article from the New York Times, The Beta Male’s Charms, that highlights a web series a friend recently told me about (We Need Girlfriends).
I think that Beta Females are just as prevalent as Beta Males, but the Beta Males are the ones garnering all the attention. Maybe because nerds are stereotypically guys with thick-framed glasses who frequent the comic book store and gather for a D&D game night once a week with their friends. But for every Screech Powers there is a Violet Anne Bickerstaff. (That’s a Saved by the Bell reference, if you missed it.)
Since Geek Chic is now in the mainstream, it’s socially acceptable for the Betas to parade around like peacocks, only with colors that aren’t quite as bright as the Alphas. The Beta Male and Beta Female are less afraid to be themselves. We even have a smattering of popular geeky shows: Chuck, The Big Bang Theory, 30 Rock. Again, more on the Beta Male trend, but Liz Lemon is representing for the Beta Female.
Personally, I’d prefer a Beta Male to an Alpha Male any day of the week. Alpha Males are often arrogant, which is one of my least favorite personality traits in a person; being confident is one thing, but being cocky is taking it a little too far. I prefer someone more on my own comfort level. Perhaps because I am a Beta Female.